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Surviving Out of Control

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by a situation? Have you ever felt that things are way beyond your control and you don’t know how you are going to cope?

I will never forget the day my twin boys were born. Nothing could prepare me for that moment. I will spare you the gory details but needless to say, a cesarean is quite a ‘full-on’ experience. I think I had a fairy tale version of what it was going to be like. The reality was anything but that!

Not long after they were born the twins were whisked off to the neo-natal department with my husband in tow and I was left alone in the operating theatre.

Well, not really alone, The Doctor was sewing me back together and there was an assortment of nurses and other Doctors buzzing around.

But in that moment I felt alone. I was in shock. What had just happened? What have I done?

I remember this overwhelming feeling of my life never being the same! There was no turning back now, and I was terrified!

So, let me ask you again… Have you ever felt overwhelmed by a situation? Have you ever felt that things are way beyond your control and you don’t know how you are going to cope?

Motherhood is out of control for me. There is so much that happens in my day that I have absolutely no control over.

Children are like having a little piece of your heart running around in someone else’s body and they don’t even realise it! They cross the road without looking, jump from bunk bed to bunk bed and they fall off skateboards after going down enormous hills… without a helmet. True story!

They don’t seem to understand that they are carrying a piece of my heart?

Motherhood has been one of the biggest learning experiences of my life. I have learned I cannot control everything… shocker! I have learned to be patient and I have learned to forgive and forget. Most importantly I have learned that I cannot do motherhood without God.

As I lay on the operating table that day, feeling completely overwhelmed and in shock a nurse came over and leaned very close to me and whispered in my ear. She said, “Well done mum!”

She was the first person to announce my new title, my new assignment!

At that moment I realised I can do this, in fact, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, Philippians 4:13.

Motherhood is out of control for me but it’s not out of control for God. Every day as I wake, I take a deep breath and ask the Lord to help me with the day ahead. I ask Him to give me patience when it’s needed, wisdom when it’s called for and humour when there simply isn’t anything else left to do. I trust that according to Philippians 4:19 God will supply all my needs.

Our out of control is never out of God’s control.

You may feel under-qualified and overwhelmed with motherhood but be encouraged today that your “out of control” is never out of God’s control! He will give you what you need to be the mother He has called you to be. All you have to do is ask.

Lord, We lift up our mothers to you today and we thank you for them. Today we ask that you will supply all our needs as mothers and that you will strengthen us for the road ahead. May we continue to grow and develop into the mother’s you call us to be. Amen

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